So at some point in the Kon Mari method
it mentions not bumming around in sweats at home
dress nice, even when no one sees you.
It affects your mood.
Texas has been cold for a bit longer than usual.
global warming no doubt.
or maybe not… but I’m sure it has to do with it.
I used to hoard perfumes I liked,
the kit kats you can only get at the airport LEAVING Japan
(the BEST tasting omiyage お土産 outside of tokyo banana),
and I had an affinity for lingerie.
Granted, I still do
but definitely spend less time and money on it
bc, well, I am chronically single.
I more or less have been this way for a while.
I am choosey
and when I find a partner
(honestly, dudes don’t really care for the most part.)
In my haste, I forget to pack it in the bag
or see a good way to transition without losing momentum.
I am all for aesthetics but
when you’re in the middle of stuff
kind of messes up the pace.
Ladies, we are wearing that for OURSELVES.
Every once in a while,
they might affectionately touch the material
while your back is turned
like Noctis did
but that doesn’t happen often.
I have this one really pretty floor length dress for sleeping
basically bridal lingerie
and I assure you it is over ten years old.
I am definitely not getting married soon lol.
With the minimalists
and Marie Kondo
they point out, what’s the point of hoarding rare items
if you aren’t going to use them?
I have special edition kit kats I haven’t eaten (yet)
bc of the rarity of the item.
When I did those mass purchases of my favorite
also very hard to find irl perfume(s)
*Namely Éclat d’Arpège I hoarded off ebay auctions 10+ years ago*
I wore it on ‘special occasions.’
(But BY THE BY I pretty much polished off the Éclat d’Arpège)
or sprayed letters I wrote.
(YES, I am that person)
Gilly Hicks went out of business and
I BOUGHT EVERY ROSE PERFUME THEY HAD (Kirrawee)
and, again, only wore it on special occasions.
The only rare perfume I didn’t hoard was the Disney x Sephora collabo
I LOVED that scent.
and I eventually got near the bottom of the bottle.
I still keep that bottle.
But it’s the only rare item
I know I cannot replenish
that I actively used
and didn’t cry (too hard) over.
So what am I doing now?
When I shower, I spray the rose perfume
and I sleep in it.
I marinate in the perfume lol
Boss sometimes doesn’t like it when we spray at work
bc some of our scents are strong.
That goes for hand creams, too.
So I figure it’s better to marinate in it lol.
The bridal lingerie:
I am sleeping in it more often.
It’s a little depressing to think
that clothes can change your mood like that.
I even studied fashion.
I understand that clothes can elevate your mood.
You create something that appeals to people
to make them feel happy, or elegant, or elated,
or emo in some cases
in addition to being functional
(to an extent).
I wear it and feel special and elegant.
I like this feeling but am also at odds with myself
bc it makes me feel like I am so simple minded lol.
How can wearing this frock make me so happy?
And then I go back to
well, do I want to rationalize feelings?
I hate that.
so why rationalize them?
It’s ok for me to feel cute, nice, pretty, special wearing this.
I mean, I still feel cute all day every day.
I feel good about myself every day.
I’m not searching for validity through my clothing.
And when I’m in my sweats
(as I am in now bc it really is so cold)
I don’t think of myself a slummy bum.
I have no negative connotations about myself.
I’m just too cold for the gown lol
But like the Minimalists say at the end of their podcasts,
Love people, use things. (because) The opposite never works.
What is the purpose of having
rare, beautiful, things
if we don’t use or enjoy them to their fullest potential?
Waiting for a someday that maybe won’t ever happen
or at least not happen soon enough.
Same goes for books we collect but don’t read.
Beautiful china that isn’t eaten off of,
linens that aren’t used for the bed, table, etc.
Makeup we hoard bc it was special edition lol
(Oddly not so bad with that one- just perfume)
So step back
and think about all the magical, wonderful things you may have
that you aren’t using or haven’t enjoyed to it’s fullest potential.
Read that book, or throw that dinner party
or gift these items to a friend who has been searching for it.
Marinate in your perfume after a shower! :)
Enjoy and be grateful for what we have.
If it doesn’t give us joy
hopefully, we can transfer/sell it to someone
who can enjoy it to it’s fullest potential.